build self confidence

 The point to boost your confidence:

Once we believe in ourselves, then we can risk curiosity, surprise, spontaneous joy, or any experience that manifests a human spirit.

One thing that has kept me behind for many years following my dreams is the fear of failure… and the lack of confidence I need to overcome this fear.

I think this is something we all have to face. Key question: How can you overcome that fear?

By working on your confidence and self-confidence. Without really thinking about it in those terms, that’s what I’ve been doing for years, and this is what finally helped me overcome my fears, and finally push my dreams forward.

I still have that fear, no doubt. But now I know that I can defeat them, that I can break down that wall of fear and come out the other side. I’ve done it many times right now, and it will lead to more success than success.

This post was inspired by Finnish reader Nick, who asked for an article about self-worth and self-confidence:

Many of the things you proposed make people feel better about themselves and really help build confidence. However, I am generally interested in reading your input on this topic. Time for your own plans and dreams Ka, wow, doing things differently than most people and being “fitting” in general can be difficult with less confidence.

True words are never spoken. If you lack self-confidence and self-confidence, it is impossible to make time for your dreams, free yourself from the traditional ghats and really become yourself.

On the one hand, I know that some people make a strong distinction between self-esteem and confidence. In this article, I use them interchangeably, even if there is a subtle but probably… important difference ... The difference is that you believe that you deserve respect from others (self-esteem) and that you are on your own. Believe (confidence). In the end, both amount to the same thing, and finally, the actions I follow boost both self-esteem and confidence.

Controlling your self-confidence

If you lack confidence, is it possible to do things that will change? Is your confidence under your control?

Although it may not seem like it, if you are low on confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to boost your confidence. It’s not genetic, and you don’t have to depend on others to boost your confidence. And if you believe you are not very capable, not very smart, not very attractive, etc ... it can be changed.

You can be worthy of someone's respect, and someone who can chase what he wants despite the naysaying of others.

You can do this by taking control of your life and controlling your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your worthiness, your self-image, you can increase confidence, without the help of anyone else.

Below, I outline 25 things that will help you do just that. None of them are revolutionary, none of them will do it themselves. The list is definitely not exhaustive. These are just my favorite things, stuff that works for me.

And you don't have to do it all, as if this is a recipe… Choose and choose the one that appeals to you, maybe just a couple at first, and try them. If they work, try another. If they don't, give it a try.

Here they are not in a specific order:

1. Prove yourself. This may sound obvious, but it's amazing how much difference shower and shaving can make for your self-confidence and your self-image. There have been days when I completely changed my mood with this little thing.

2. Dress nicely. Personalization of the first item above… If you dress nicely, you will feel good about yourself. You will be successful and present and ready to solve the world. Now, dressing up means having something different for everyone… doesn’t mean you have to wear a $ 500 outfit, but it does mean you can have casual clothes that look great and present.

3. Photoshop your self-image. Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often feel. There is a mental picture of ourselves and it determines how much confidence we have in ourselves. But this picture is not fixed and changeable. You can change it. Use your mental photoshopping skills and work on your self-image. If it's not very good, replace it. Figure out why you see yourself that way and find a way to fix it.

4. Think positive. One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, was how to replace negative thoughts with positive ones (see next thing). How can I really change my thoughts, and in doing so great things happen? With these little skills, I was able to train and run for a marathon in one year. It looks very small, so Norman Vincent Peel, but my god this works. Seriously. Try it if you don't have one.

5. Kill negative thoughts. Going hand in hand with the above thing, but it’s so important that I made it a different thing. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, your own thoughts about yourself, and what you are doing. Sometimes when I was running my mind would start saying, “This is very difficult. I want to stop and watch TV. "Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self, and I soon learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that negative thinking is a mistake, and I would consciously look for these mistakes." When I caught someone, I would stump him (mentally) and squash him. Kill him Then replace it with a positive one. ("Kiman, I can do this! Only one mile left!")

Know yourself and you will win all the battles. - Sun Tzu

6. Know yourself. When going into battle, the intelligent commoner learns to know his enemy very, very well. You cannot defeat the enemy without knowing it. And when you are trying to remove the negative self-image and replace it with confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself better. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself and your thoughts about yourself and analyze why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about you, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and then whether they are real limitations or just where you are allowed to put them, artificially. Dig deep inside you, and you will come out with even more confidence.

7. Act positively. Rather than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, indeed, is the key to developing confidence. Learning to think positive is one thing, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, change what you are. Act positively, take action instead of not being able to tell yourself, you will not be positive. Positively talk to people, put energy into your actions. You will soon begin to notice a difference.

8. Be kind and generous. Oh, so polite. If this is too polite for you, go ahead. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and being generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a great way to improve your self-image. You act according to the golden rule, and you feel good about yourself, and think you are a good person. It gives wonders for your confidence, trust me.

Confidence is an important key to success. The key to confidence is preparation. - Arthur Ashe

9. Be prepared. If you don't feel good about yourself, it's hard to believe. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Consider taking an exam: If you have not studied, you will not have much confidence in your abilities to perform well in the exam. But if you don’t study your butt, you’re ready, and you’ll have more confidence. Now think of life as your test, and prepare yourself.

10. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles on which your life is built? If you don't know, you will get in trouble, because your life seems directionless. For me, I try to live the golden rule (and often fail). This is my key principle and I try to live my life with it. I have others, but they are mostly related to this rule (the main exception is "my enthusiasm alive"). Think about your principles ... you may have them but you may not have given them more thought. Now think about whether you really live by these principles, or if you just believe in them but don’t act on them.

11. Speak slowly. Such a simple thing, but it can make a big difference in how other people understand you. The person in authority, the authority, speaks softly. It shows confidence. The person who thinks he is not fit to listen will speak quickly because he is not waiting for something that is not worth listening to. If you don’t feel confident in the person speaking slowly, try doing it a little. It will make you feel more confident. Of course, don’t take it to an extreme position, but just don’t rush.

12. .nacha .bha. I have a horrible posture, so giving this advice would seem hypocritical to me, but I know it works because I try so often. When I remind myself to be tall and straight, I feel better about myself. I imagine the rope pulling the top of my head towards the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. On the one hand, people who are tall and confident are more attractive. In my book, it’s a good thing any day.

13. Increase capacity. How do you feel more capable? By becoming more capable. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Do only small bits at a time. If you want to become a more competent writer, for example, do not try to solve the whole business of writing all at once. Just start writing more. Write a journal, blog, short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you will become. Write 30 minutes for the day (for example) to write, and practice will increase your fitness.

14. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting the moon and then when they fail, they get frustrated. Instead, shoot to achieve something more. Set a goal that you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You will feel good about it. Now set another small goal and achieve it. The smaller the goals you achieve, the more you will be in it and the better you feel. Soon you should set big (but still achievable) goals and achieve them too.

15. Change a small habit. Not as big as quitting smoking. Just a little, like writing things. Or wake up 10 minutes earlier. Or drink a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do for a month. When you complete that, you feel like millions of rupees.

16. Focus on solutions. If you are a plaintiff or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and career. "I'm fat and lazy!" So how can you solve that? "But I can't inspire myself!" So how can you solve that? "But I don't have the strength!" So what is compromise?

17. Smile. The second triangle. But it works. I feel better immediately when I smile, and it helps me to be kind to others as well. A little small thing whose chain might be a reaction. Don't waste your time and energy.

18. Volunteer. Related to the above “Be kind and generous” item, but more specific. Now is the holiday season can you find time to volunteer for a good cause, to spread the excitement of a little holiday, to make someone else's life better? It will be some of the best times you have ever spent, and the amazing side effect is that you will immediately feel right about yourself.

19. Be grateful. I am grateful to you. Trust me, because anyone who has been reading this blog for a very long time knows it well. But I put it here because despite being thankful for what you have in life, what other people have given you is a very polite activity… it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. read more.

20. Exercise. Happy, I put this on almost every list. But if I leave it out of this list I'll do it to get you off. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last few years, and it makes me feel so good about myself.

You only have to walk a few times a week, and you will see the benefits. Start the habit.

21. Empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself is usually the best strategy to boost confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one surefire way to empower yourself is through knowledge. With the same vein of bringing skills and preparation વાથી becoming more knowledgeable, you will gain more confidence… and you will become more knowledgeable through research and study. The internet is an important tool, of course, but so are the people around you, the people you want, books, magazines, and educational institutions.

22. Do something you are thinking of. What's on your to-do list sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out. You feel great about yourself.

23. Activate. It is always better to do something than not to do it. Of course, doing something can make mistakes… but mistakes are a part of life. This is what we learn. Without mistakes, we will never improve. So don't worry about it. Just do something. Get out of your quagmire and take steps to accomplish something - physical or active.

24. Work on small things. Trying to undertake a huge project or task can be overwhelming and frightening and intimidating for even the best of us. Instead, learn to break small parts and work into explosions. Small accomplishments make you feel good, and they add to the big accomplishments. Always learn to work this way, and soon you will go crazy with confidence.

25. Clean your desk. This sounds like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it may not be that small). But it always works wonders for me. If my desk seems to be messing up, and the world around me is in chaos, turning off my desk is the way to control a little bit of my life. It’s quiet in the middle of the storm around me. Here's how.